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SECRET 1: Real men fear rejection It’s true. Most men feel that women are very critical of them, and they worry that if they do open up, someone’s going to laugh at them, leaving them rejected and humiliated. 

It’s important for women to realise that a man’s ego and sense of identity are generally more fragile than hers and more easily threatened. 

That is especially so when he’s in an intimate relationship: He craves acknowledgment and feedback that he’s pleased you. 

Not judging your partner means allowing him to say what is on his mind, and simply being willing to hear it. This does not mean that you don’t have an opinion. 

In order to open up, he has to feel truly accepted for who he is, not for who you may want him to be. 

SECRET 2: Reveal yourself as well There must be mutual disclosure between partners. Everybody has problems, fears and skeletons in the closet. Many guys think, “If I share this, she’ll leave me.” 

You have to show that this is not the case by revealing something about yourself that shows you have as much trust in him as he has in you. 

When he starts to open up, listen to what he is saying, then take a step beyond and offer something positive in return. After he tells you something personal, say something like, “Well, that’s not so bad. I’ve done worse.” 

Let him know you’re on his team, that he is not alone with his experience. It’s amazing how many men feel tremendously alone. 

Not only have they been trained for silence, taught that it is unmanly to express what they are going through, they usually don’t get feedback from the guys in their world. So, your honest and positive feedback is vital. 

SECRET 3: Let Go of the Past Have you ever had a “discussion” with your partner that ended up turning into a litany of past grievances, the things he did wrong, the ways he hurt you and what he owes you now? 

It happens at some point in nearly every relationship, but the fact remains that men cringe when they feel this coming.

When a man fears that his words will later be distorted, misunderstood and thrown back at him, it is impossible for him to open up. 

And the only way to move beyond this communication trap is to realise that whatever happened in the past, whatever he did or said, you were involved as well. All relationships are dances. No one is entirely good and no one entirely bad. 

The ability to forgive may be just as simple as realising that what was true a year ago about him (and about yourself as well) may not be true now. Stay focused in the present. 

SECRET 4: Become a solid listener Is it even possible to have honest relationships? The assumption is that everybody’s going to be honest. The truth is, few people are. And the main reason that people are dishonest is that the consequences are too big. 

Many men feel that women want and need to be lied to because they can’t take the truth. In fact, women demand certain responses from men and feel devastated if they don’t get them. 

Then they’re surprised when he shuts down and doesn’t talk. If you’re ready to break out of this unrealistic rut, it’s time to ask yourself three things. How much of the truth you can tolerate? How much do you really want? 

Do you want your man to be a fantasy figure for you, or are you willing to allow him to become real? 

SECRET 5: Be true to yourself How can we be true to another if we aren’t true to ourselves? The best way to help a man open up is simply to be open yourself, be natural, be real and exude an atmosphere of warmth and acceptance. 

Be true to yourself and you will find that it is contagious. They will communicate openly and naturally, not with a fixed agenda, not to manipulate or control.